Hi. I'm Veronica Valli.

AUTHOR. EXPERT. SOBER.

20 years sober and 17 years of experience as a recovery coach and psychotherapist. I work with women all over the world. I help you dig deep, embrace change, and become who you are meant to be. I am a member of NAADAC and abide by their professional standards and ethics.

I have been a leader and pioneer in the field of alcohol recovery for almost two decades. As a former clinical psychotherapist and with 20 years of sobriety, I bring a unique personal and professional perspective to my work.

I know what you’ve been through because I’ve been there too. And I know how to help you come through it because of my vast experience working with people just like you.

MY STORY

When I first started drinking, it was fun. I felt like I finally belonged in my own skin. Like I had the keys to this exciting new world. It’s like how you feel when you take your first couple of drinks. Fun. Relaxed. Happy. Interesting to others.

Funny how the blackouts, arguments, embarrassments, fatigue, and sometimes dangerous behaviors—and terrible hangovers—are muted by the glow of those first few drinks and the promises they make to us.

Eventually, I was drinking to numb the intense fear and panic I experienced yet didn’t have the tools to handle. “I’m not an alcoholic,” I told myself as I drank at 8:30 AM to get through class at university without panic. “Alcoholics actually enjoy drinking. I’m doing this because I have to.”

The things I told myself to convince myself that I needed to drink—and eventually to use drugs—were unreal. And I believed them every time.

THE GREAT BIG SOBER SECRET

When I finally heard someone describe the inner world of someone with an alcohol problem, I understood with crystal clarity that there was a solution to my problem.

You see, it’s not a drinking problem you have. Drinking is simply a symptom of another underlying problem you’re trying to solve. (Mine was fear and panic attacks.)

I’ve been sober for 20 years. Stopping drinking—and the work I did on myself alongside it—helped me feel like myself again. I now feel whole and purposeful. That’s worth everything to me.

WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER

Everyone has a different story about their drinking. Your story is uniquely yours. But what we all have in common is the hope that we can face the difficulties in life, as well as the challenges we’ve experienced in the past, with tools and support that help us get through our days and understand our worth—no matter what we face.

For 12 years I used alcohol to fill a void within me. But for some reason, the void only got bigger despite what alcohol promised me. I got out, and so can you—no matter how big or small your void (or whether you even recognize you have one).

I created Soberful to help you.

I am a member of NAADAC and abide by their professional standards and ethics.

Grab my book!

Soberful: Uncover a Sustainable, Fulfilling Life Free of Alcohol

How to stop drinking, stay stopped, and develop emotional skills for a life of excitement and connection … without the hangover.

“No thanks―I’m not drinking tonight.” In a culture that equates alcohol with enjoyment and social acceptance, making this simple statement can make us feel like we’re depriving or even punishing ourselves. “When we realize we don’t want to drink anymore or can no longer drink safely, it can feel like the only choices are to spiral out of control or embrace a joyless life,” says psychotherapist and sobriety expert Veronica Valli. “But it’s not true! Sobriety can be a path filled with fun, excitement, belonging, relaxation, and romance.”

Soberful offers a practical and straightforward program on how to get sober and stay sober by increasing your self-worth, energy, and participation in life. Valli begins by debunking widespread beliefs about alcohol and sobriety, including the illusion that alcohol itself is the problem. Then she takes you into the heart of her method for building an alcohol-free life that works―the Five Pillars of Sustainable Sobriety:

• Movement―Taking care of your body for physical and emotional health
• Connection―Using self-compassion as a foundation for creating healthy and authentic relationships
• Balance―Learning how to disarm the triggers that make you want to drink
• Process―Validating, honoring, and accepting the past to move forward into the future
• Growth―How to keep changing, keep learning, and keep choosing to stay sober throughout the journey of your life

“When we change how we experience the world, we can stop trying to escape our feelings with alcohol,” Valli says. As a leader and pioneer in the field with 21 years of sobriety, Valli now shares the same steps that worked for her and her clients. Written with gentle humor and compassion, Soberful provides a road map to a life beyond drinking―one that is expansive, fulfilling, and joyously free.