My top 3 strategies for dealing with people who DON'T want you to stop drinking.
If we numb the pain then we numb the joy
When we decide to stop drinking it's common for a lot of us to experience some 'push back' from our family and peer groups.
Generally speaking the people around us don't like it when we stop drinking as it upsets 'the apple cart.' We have all been conditioned to drink alcohol and abusive drinking has been normalized in our culture. So 'not drinking' is seen as very weird. It's a bit like being a vegetarian in the 70's. People look at you funny.
In 18 years of sobriety this is what I know for sure ...
A question I get asked a lot is ‘when will I know if I’m ok?’ Or, ‘when will I be done?’ Obviously, the answer is never, the journey of self-discovery is one that never ends. However, what I can say is we know we are firmly in the realm of recovery when we begin to have appropriate emotional responses to events.
What does that mean exactly?
On May 2nd, 2018 I celebrate 18 years of continuous sobriety. This did not come easy. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I made some big mistakes along the way.